Trauma alters the way we understand boundaries, including our own. I wrote about Basic Boundaries earlier this year, but I wanted to give space for why boundary development can be particularly tricky for folks with serious or persistent mental illness when exceptionally traumatic history looms.
I really hated doing laundry, especially as a little kid. Just because it needs be done, doesn't mean it needs to be a complicated procedure. This is how I've found peace with my laundry and other chores.
It might seem to be intuitive, but pleasurable activities need to be a routine for the purpose of developing and to maintain emotional regulation, coping strategies, behavioral attention, and simply: fun, positive experiences.
Recently, I put together my own "how to" manual for keeping track of car maintenance, and I thought I'd stick it here in case anyone else wants to put it in their "home management" notebook. Some of this you do DIY, e.g. engine and cabin filters, windshield wipers, etc. to save on shop costs.
Keep in mind the price guide provided match my car and chosen shops.
content: food, deconstructing food culture and diet culture
Intuitive eating, eat when you feel hungry and quit before your full. No shame and get a workout from time-to-time.
A plan that does and doesn't work for me but at least gave me a better understanding of how to stabilize the financial situation.
Recently, we covered Basic Distress Tolerance Skills which serve to identify stressors and strategies, acceptance of the situation with neutrality, and to quick ways to distract ourselves from implosion. Now, we're going to explore advanced strategies.
Worry is a fact of nature. With this entry, I'll share a strategy for establishing and managing that half of the hotspots and worry journaling that I've previously mentioned.
Basic Distress Tolerance Skills are based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) which empower us to identify stressors as well as self-destructive coping strategies that we've developed. For the trauma brain, this is extremely useful, as we might find ourselves engaging in activities which temporarily meet our regulatory needs but might not be self-sustaining.
Emotional freedom Technique (EFT) draws upon a variety of alternative treatment theories for relieving emotional distress and physical discomfort.