Forward: The following does not delve into complex and significantly serious issues of boundary violation. My desire isn't to narrate a re-traumatizing post but to explore ways to smooth out foundational, interpersonal skills.
Boundaries can be considerably challenging to establish and maintain for anyone. It becomes especially difficult for people who have PTSD or C-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder: C-PTSD can occur for individuals who have experienced repeated or multiple traumatic experiences over an ongoing period of time). Experiencing long-term control, manipulation, and threats may lead to "mental death," or permanent damage to a person's core identity, difficulty with interpersonal communication, guilt, and change to areas of the brain equivalent to an injury.
While these things cannot be clinically "cured," people can heal with the help of a trauma-informed therapist, trusted friends, and a plan for when a crisis arises.
Trusted friends? Hold the phone. Well, that's another one of those factors one has when living with PTSD. It's not that you have to pressure yourself to be authentic with everyone to "feel the heal," but building boundaries can establish secure bonds of trust.
So, let's take a gander at some boundaries I've chosen to enact:
By no means is my simplified list exhaustive or one that I perfectly handle every time an issue arises.
If someone genuinely treads too far, seek a mentor or a professional who has no stake in any sides of the story.
Film: What About Bob?